Wedding Registration Form
We are happy to accompany you through the marriage preparation process which aims to deepen your understanding of Catholic marriage, to strengthen your relationship, and to support your journey as Christian disciples bonded in love.
For couples who are, or intend to become, parishioners at St. Ignatius, this process will include married parishioner mentor couples with whom you will meet before and, it is hoped, after your wedding, at dates and times convenient for both couples, to discuss many of the major issues and questions which married persons face once they begin married life.
A sacramental marriage is a profound mystery and religious covenant involving a deeply personal (and public) commitment on the part of both individuals.
While it is understandable that you will be concerned with many details regarding the liturgy, the reception and the honeymoon, the first priority is your spiritual preparation for entering into this sacred and perpetual union. The following information will assist you in planning for your ceremony and for your life together thereafter.
To Be Married at St. Ignatius
To be married at St. Ignatius Church, one or both parties must have been an active and contributing registered member of the parish for at least nine months. Children of parishioners are also eligible to be married at St. Ignatius.
Graduates of Loyola-Blakefield or Loyola University and those who are either relatives of Jesuits or alumni of Jesuit schools may be married at St. Ignatius if a Jesuit relative or friend officiates at the wedding.
Couples will register for and complete the online Catholic marriage program “Witness to Love.” The feedback gained from this program will be forwarded to the priest or facilitator so that the strengths and opportunities for continued growth can be discussed.
Engaged Encounter Weekend (Optional)
Many couples favor this 48-hour experience. It is a spiritually rewarding time together in conjunction with as many as 12 other couples to explore personally almost every facet of married life. Several married couples oﬀer initial talks which individual couples discuss later on their own. Fees are established by the Archdiocese. Alternately, “GIVEN,” a day-long retreat, may be used to supplement the mentor couple and on-line preparation steps.
This approach involves four or five meetings with a couple, already married, at dates and times convenient for both couples, to discuss all the major issues and questions which married people face once they begin married life.
The fee is $150.
All couples will undertake a one-time questionnaire covering 16 themes that touch on marriage. Once the questionnaire has been processed, the couple will meet with a priest, deacon, or facilitator to discuss the results.
If the pre-marital inquiry shows that either or both parties to the intended marriage have been married previously, it will be necessary to determine if annulment(s) must be sought for the previous marriage(s). Archdiocesan regulations do not permit a date to be set for the anticipated marriage until the necessary annulments are granted.
Typically done at the initial meeting by the priest or deacon who is directing the couple’s preparation for marriage, the inquiry asks a series of questions through which the couple indicates that they understand the meaning of the marriage vows & conﬁrm that they are ready and eligible for marriage.
In the case of marriages between Catholics and members of other Christian or non-Christian faiths, it is necessary to obtain the appropriate permission or dispensation from the Archdiocese. Ordinarily, this is not difficult and will be done by the priest or deacon helping the couple to prepare for marriage.
If neither party to the wedding is a parishioner of St. Ignatius, the Catholic party must receive a letter of permission from his or her pastor to be married at St. Ignatius.
Details of the Special Day
Wedding couples are encouraged to take an active role in planning their marriage ceremony. Ordinarily, the liturgy is prepared in conjunction with the officiating priest or deacon, who will acquaint the couple with the liturgical options available. A wedding rehearsal is required for all couples. “Candlelight” ceremonies are not permitted at St. Ignatius.
The parish priests of St. Ignatius have the primary responsibility to officiate at the marriages of their parishioners. Friends or relatives of the wedding couple are also most welcome to officiate at weddings at St. Ignatius, but they will need to receive delegation from the pastor
Music selected for the liturgy should adhere to guidelines set by the Church for weddings. In general, music should be of a religious nature, in keeping with the dignity of the nuptial ritual. All musical arrangements must be approved by the wedding music coordinator at St. Ignatius. The Wedding Music Planner Form should be completed and returned to the wedding music coordinator as soon as possible.
The wedding couple usually elects to make their own arrangements with a florist for altar flowers. Bows and/or flowers may be placed on the pews if clips (not tape) are used. For a number of reasons, we do not allow the use of a carpet. Any flowers that decorate the sanctuary are left in the church so that they may be enjoyed by the congregation at the Masses on Sunday.
After the Ceremony
Given the time constraints when other weddings or liturgies will be taking place at the church on the same day, preparations should typically be made for the receiving line to be held at the reception site rather than at the church. Arrangements should be made with the parish office regarding the appropriate times for photo opportunities, which may on occasion be prior to the wedding. Scattering rose petals, blowing bubbles, and/or throwing rice, confetti, birdseed or similar materials are not permitted at or in the church.
Save the Date!
Weddings at St. Ignatius will be available only at 10 AM or 3:00 in the afternoon on Saturdays We cannot accommodate evening weddings. We recommend that, when you schedule your wedding, you also schedule a time for the rehearsal, usually no later than 6:00 PM . A deposit is required to reserve the church at the time the wedding is initially scheduled.
The deposit is required to reserve the church at the time the wedding is initially scheduled, and the music coordinator fee is to be paid when the Wedding Music Planner Form is submitted. All other fees must be paid at least one month prior to the date of the wedding.
- Fee for use of church (including deposit)
- Regularly Contributing Parishioner $1,100
- Non-Parishioner $1,400
- Deposit payable to “St. Ignatius Church” $150
- Music Coordinator fee, payable to “Julie Kurzava” $100
- Organist, payable to the individual $250
- Cantor or Vocalist, payable to the individual $200